What we are going to take away?

We always try to look at things, with fog of negativity. Everything we learn, everything we see, is a direct filter of our suffering. Everybody is suffering from something or someone, it is a never-ending cycle. And almost every time, we miss the point. Yes, we are suffering right now, but the future we create, may have a different picture.

It is like, every person you meet, or every person you leave behind, teaches you an important lesson of what you want in your life. Some give us the gift of appreciating others, while others teach you to avoid certain things in life. And yet we never realize, having those bad experiences in our life, makes us the person that we are. Generally, a person is measured in terms of black and white; but there is a shade for every situation in his life which alters is thinking and actions.

We have so many stories to support this! First one is of Hitler. In his childhood he had some bad experiences with Jewish people, later that turned him into a menace he was. He could have learnt his lesson and instead of torturing, he could have been good to everyone when he was in power, so that no one would feel what he felt. But as we all know he choose revenge over forgiveness.

King Ashoka was devastated after his brothers tried to kill him, his loved ones were killed while protecting him. He also went on a revenge spree which concluded with the Kalinga war, killing more than 3,00,000 people. And that massacre made him realize, you cannot heal your wounds, with other’s flesh. His change of heart made him one of the best kings, in the world known to mankind.

My personal favorite is of Karna. Pandavas treated him badly but Duroudhana treated him as a friend (for whatever reasons may be, those reasons were unknown to Karna). He had seen what bias combined with power can do, and he wanted to change that. A bad experience inspired him to make a change. After knowing all the aspects of the story, we know he choose a wrong side. But can we say, the changes he made were bad?! He had every reason to dislike Pandavas, and make the change, which he did.

The basic reasons behind all these stories is that all these people were treated badly. Some learned from their feelings others choose not to. And the rest is history. Just because someone was bad to you, does not mean you must treat others in a same way. You can make sure, that others do not feel the same humiliation or misery.

Bad things happen to people all the time. The way we perceive it, decides our future and in some cases future of mankind. No one is good or bad. They are just reflections of what choices they have made. It is impossible to predict the outcome of the course you have chosen and the effect it could have on others. May be that is why the journey worth. It is totally up to you, what to take and what not to. But, I do want people to choose, love over hatred. The courage to maintain peace over fear. As you do not know, what effect your actions would have on people’s mind. Kindness is the solution to all the horrors we are facing now a day. Just a smile can convert someone’s bad day into a better one.

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ओळख

​आपल्याला बोलायला ओळख लागते. ओळख वेगळी वेगळी असू शकते, कधी व्यक्तिशी तर कधी मुद्दयांशी. दोन माणसं जेह्वा भेटतात, तेह्वा ओळख शोधतात. काहीतरी साधर्म्य शोधतात. कारण आपल्याला अनोळखी गोष्टिंची, माणसांची भीति असते. ओळखीच्या ठिकाणी जायला तेवढी भीति नाही वाटत. तसाच काहितरी अनोळखी व्यक्तिशी बोलताना होत. जेह्वा एक ओळखीचा धागा सापडतो, तेह्वा त्या व्यक्तीची भीति कमी होते आणि संवादाला सुरवात होते. अर्थात बोलणं ओळखीला धरुनच असतं. त्या धाग्याला धरुन आपण पुढे जातो आणि जाळे विणायचा प्रयत्न करतो. म्हणूनच कदाचित, विचार ज्या व्यक्तिशी जुळतात ते आपल्याला जास्त जवळचे वाटतातं. कारण त्यांच्या विचारांचे सगळे धागे आपल्याला माहित असतात. 

ज्या लोकांशी विचार जुळत नाही, त्या लोकांच आपण जास्त ऐकूनपण घेऊ शकतं नाही. एक भीति असते, आपल्याला आपला comfort zone सोडावा लागेल, आणि त्याच्याहून जास्त भीति असते की, त्या comfort zone च्या बाहेर आपल्याला जास्त आवडेल. स्वतःच अस्तित्व त्या comfort zone ने आपणच ठरवलेल असतं  आणि जर तोच सोडला तर अस्तित्वालापण धक्का लागतो. अर्थात स्वतःच्या अस्तित्वाला स्वतःहुन धोक्यात घालण सगळ्यांना जमातच अस नाही.